I hereby give you permission to do something that is normally frowned upon in society, permission to do what some call crazy, permission to walk on the wild side.
Go ahead…talk to yourself!
But there’s one rule – you must talk to yourself as kindly as you speak to others. You must be polite and encouraging.
Hmmm…do you suddenly find yourself at a loss for words?
Is it awkward?
The fact is, if we talked to others like we talk to ourselves, we would probably get arrested! Think about it. Would you allow someone to call you an idiot and tell you that you can’t do anything right? Would you let them tell someone you love that they are worthless? Of course not. And yet, this is how most people talk to themselves on a daily basis.
It is heartbreaking to see an adult who was verbally abused as a child. They are easy to recognize – shoulders slumped, quiet, head down. They lack self-confidence. They may be highly intelligent, but think of themselves as stupid. They may be attractive, but when they look in the mirror, they see an ugly image. Why? Because somewhere in life, words were said that convinced them they were worthless.
If you’ve ever had the pleasure of seeing someone speak positively and sincerely to someone like this about something specific they’ve done, you will notice that all of a sudden, they stand tall, raise their head, and smile just a little.
This illustrates the power of words and thoughts.
They can be weapons…or tools.
I’ll let you in on a secret: the most successful people I know talk to themselves. They know how to use words and thoughts as tools for success. Their inner conversations go something like this, “You can do it!” Or, “So you made a mistake. You’ll find a better way next time,” Or, “Don’t worry about it – you don’t have to be perfect.” Or, “Maybe you didn’t finish, but you got further than you would have if you didn’t try.” And one of my favorites, “There HAS to be a way, and I’m going to find it!”
Does it really matter what you say to yourself? You bet it does! Our minds tend to interpret our thoughts as reality. So make your thoughts good ones.
Join us Monday night, May 6,
on the Leadership Insight Show
to meet Melissa Malueg,
a very special guest who specializes in successful self-talk.
If you’re guilty of verbal self-abuse, you need to listen to this show!